Saturday, July 31, 2010

Neighborly love...


Have you ever gone out of your way to do something nice for someone for no reason at all? I did just that today and got quite the reaction! I made 12 loaves of zucchini bread and decided to give half of it away! My original intention was to freeze all of it for our family to have year round, but when I started to look out the windows at the houses around me, I changed my mind.

We live in a very diverse neighborhood and have a variety of different lifestyles and personalities surrounding us! And because we live in a downtown area our houses all border each other pretty closely!

Bordering our house plot we have a gay couple, a elderly widow, a set of retired grandparents, a toddler with teenage parents, a single mom with 2 kids, and another elderly couple. We have gotten to know some of them quite well and others are on a first name basis only. It is our desire as a family to get to know our neighbors better and to reach out to them.
So, this afternoon, after my bread was done baking I packed the kids up in the wagon (and Tom pushed Jack in a stroller) and we delivered our zucchini bread to our various neighbors. It's amazing how people react when you give them something without expecting something in return. Many said thank you many times over and some looked surprised! Isn't it sad that we don't do things like this more often. What an opportunity to reach out to someone who might be lonely or needy by baking a simple loaf of bread.

It was also nice that we brought our kids along for the ride/walk. It gave our kids the chance to see what being a kind and Godly neighbor meant! They introduced themselves, talked for a few minutes and we were able to visit in a way that our kids got to know our neighbors as well.

(If you are moving to a new home, still new to an area, or just don't know your neighbors very well... try this idea...) When we moved into our last home I organized a backyard dessert party at our home. We were new to the neighborhood and wanted to meet the families on the street. So, I went to the dollar store and bought some cute plastic plates (it could be any kind of container) and delivered them empty to each house in the neighborhood. I put a simple invitation on each plate inviting them to a "backyard dessert party." The invite asked them to bring this empty plate back to the party filled with a yummy snack of their choice.

By delivering the plates first we had an initial contact with each family and made small talk for a few minutes. Then, when they returned to our party the following week, we had a face to put with a name. It was a huge success. Some people had been living on the street for years and didn't know everyone around them! I would say we had about 1/2 of the homes represented and we had a great time chatting around a campfire with our "plates of goodies!"

I was hoping we would have the same result today when we delivered the bread to our neighbors and I think we accomplished that. If nothing else, we want them to know that our family cares about them and that we're here if they need us.

We wanted to nourish their bodies with food, but more importantly we wanted to nourish their souls with a smile!

Beans & Bread...

There is nothing better than the sound of Pop, Pop, Pop in the middle of a hot summer day! What am I talking about? Canning your own veggies from the garden!! I spent my Saturday canning 14 quarts of green beans and baking 12 loaves of zucchini bread! (Amongst the usual chaos of a household full of babies!)

Here are a few pictures of the results!



Yes, this first loaf is 1/2 eaten! I had to have some while it was still warm! :-) The girls shared some with me too of coarse!

Canning and baking foods to freeze are a few of those things that take a lot of love and hard work, but it is so worth it in the middle of the winter! We can pull out yummy preserved foods that we know are organically grown and good for us!

My mom always canned our garden goodies when I was little and I can't say I ever appreciated what she was doing. As a child I just saw it as lots of work and didn't understand the financial and nutritional benefits it had for our family! I am now proud to follow in her footsteps and enjoy the process knowing it is benefitting my family in more ways than one! Thanks for your example Mom!

Wednesday, July 28, 2010

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Jack's First Meal!

I think Jack is going through another growth spirt because he's been wanting to nurse every hour and a half, so I decided last night to try giving him some rice cereal for the first time! I was tired of feeding him so often and I thought maybe giving him a little extra something in his belly would help... well, lets just say that he LOVED it!

When I fed my girls cereal for the first time they ate it ok, but most of it came right back out. NOT Jack! He ate every bite with a lot of enthusiasm and excitement! After the first few bites he recognized the spoon coming towards him and would open his mouth SO wide! I couldn't go fast enough for him! I had to giggle because it was like he was tasting chocolate for the first time!


He also used his hands a lot to help get it all down! After every bite his fist went right into his mouth and he would suck on it and smile! I think he was in baby heaven! :0)

He was enjoying himself so much, but I didn't want to give him a whole lot the first time just in case he had an allergic reaction or belly ache after. When I stopped feeding him he literally started screaming and didn't stop until I gave him the rest of his bottle! I would say he was definitely ready for cereal and I can't wait to try it again!


Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Dalonk & Kalong

Meet Dalonk & Kalong, our new pet caterpillars! :) (yes, the girls named them
and I have NO idea where these names came from, but I thought they were cute!)

I used up the last few eggs in a carton today and decided to let the girls make a new toy! I gave them a 1/2 carton each, a few crayons, and then added a few pipe cleaners when they were done scribbling. I didn't have googly eyes, so I drew a face on the front.

When we were finished, you would have thought that I bought them each a brand new toy! They played with them all afternoon! We went for a walk this evening and Bailee even asked if they could bring their caterpillars along!

Not bad for recycling! :0)



After snapping a few pictures with their new "pets" they sat down on the front steps and asked if they could watch the cars go by. No cars went by, but they sat so nicely together that I couldn't help but snap a few photos! I love these moments when they truly love being together!!!


My niece turns 2 today!

My sweet niece turns 2 today! Happy Birthday Alana!
Here are some fun family photos I took last night at her party!
Love you Alana!!! We pray that you have another happy and healthy year!






Ever feel like you are in mommy solitary confinement?

I read this blog post by someone else this morning and I thought it was so good that I wanted to share it with all the other moms out there reading my blog! I know I've felt like this and it helps to know that we are not all alone!


Ever feel like you are in mommy solitary confinement?

All I’ve ever wanted my entire life was to be a mother. I’ve always been a big book nerd, reading and writing constantly and in one of my very first journals I kept as a young teenager, I wrote about how much I looked forward to being a mother one day, and the type of mom I wanted to be.

When I had my first daughter, I was still working full-time as a Registered Nurse in the Emergency Room. I worked three 12 hour shifts a week, and it was a perfect arrangement. I treasured my time at home with Aubrey and enjoyed my work, the challenge, the adrenaline and the camaraderie that came with being an ER nurse.

Things changed quickly when in a few months time, my husband accepted a job in Savannah, Ga., and I found out I was pregnant with my second child. Child care expenses for two kids were barely going to be worth me having a job, so we decided that I would finally get my dream of being a stay-at-home-mom.

We moved to a new state, where I went from the rush of saving lives three days a week, having friends to make play dates with when I wasn’t working and a regular roster of babysitters, to being at home, 6-months pregnant with only an 18-month-old to keep me company.

Anytime we had moved in the past I was working, or in school and always had a way to meet people. Because I wasn’t working and staying at home to avoid day care costs, I knew no one. My pregnancies have never been easy, and because of that I’ve always had a “no exercising while pregnant” policy.

I had exactly what I had always wanted, and I have never felt so alone in my life. I loved not having to leave Aubrey to go to work, but we had nowhere to go, nothing to do and her vocabulary was limited to, “Momma,” “ Dadda,” “Elmo,” “cracker,” and “poo-poo.” There were only so many conversations we could have without me losing my mind.

I became so desperate that I started going to the mall, bookstores and playgrounds in hopes of meeting other moms. But I didn’t want to be that pushy mom you meet and after only five minutes is having diarrhea of the mouth, complaining about motherhood, discussing her labor and delivery and generally scaring off all forms of human life. I wanted genuine friends. People I could talk to and bond with, and I didn’t think I was going to pick them up at the mall.

My attitude was awful and I became tired of being bored and lonely all of the time. I don’t know if it was sheer insanity, but I began talking to God- out loud, almost all day, every day.

Instead of standing at my kitchen sink moping about how much I hated washing dishes and that I had nothing to do all day, I’d start my day with a conversation with God, “Father thank you that I have dishes to wash and food to eat. Thank you for the lagoon in my backyard. I love standing here watching the cranes fly around. I am so blessed to have what I’ve always wanted. Help me to have a good attitude, Lord. I am so lonely and bored, and I don’t want to waste this time I have with Aubrey. Make me what I need to be for her, and for Zeb. Help me to make friends.”

I occasionally confused Aubrey by seemingly talking to myself all of the time, and from time to time I would catch her babbling away. “What it is honey?” I’d ask her.

“Oh, I pway Momma.” She would explain.

But God slowly began changing me. My insecurities about being rejected by other moms and not finding a place begin to fall away and I started really pursuing my interests. I joined a moms group and Bible study at a local church. I started a regular exercise routine for the first time in my life. And by the time my second child was born, the emptiness and loneliness I felt were gone.

The rest of my time in Savannah was spent building some great and enduring friendships but the people around me hadn’t changed. I had.

Our relationship with God is like our relationship with anyone else in that it requires constant communication. Have you ever had friends you’ve grown apart from? Once one person stops talking to another person for any reason, the relationship begins to drift. The less time spent communicating, the less you have in common, the less you know about one another.

God took a time in my life when I felt like I had no one, and He became everything to me. All it took was an attitude of gratitude and a willingness to talk to Him, and I finally began to see that He was all I needed.

Psalm 138: 1-3 (The Message)

1-3 Thank you! Everything in me says “Thank you!” Angels listen as I sing my thanks. I kneel in worship facing your holy temple and say it again: “Thank you!” Thank you for your love, thank you for your faithfulness; most holy is your name, most holy is your Word. The moment I called out, you stepped in; you made my life large with strength.

Monday, July 26, 2010

Oops! Old photos!



These photos are about a month old, but I just found them on my old camera! Oops, I guess it's been a while since I've used that camera!

These were taken the first time I put Jack in his Bumbo chair! I never had one of these for my girls, but found one a recent yard sale I went to. He loves it!

These photos also show how hard it is to get a good picture of 3 babies all at once! :0)

Blueberry picking!

Yesterday was a beautiful day here in Maine! The weather was perfect and it was a quiet Sunday afternoon, so what better thing to do than to go blueberry picking! My husband agreed to keep the kids home during nap time so I could go alone, but last minute I decided to grab our 3-year-old to join in on the fun!

I told her to eat all the blueberries she wanted, and she had fun eating all 3 blueberries! Yes, she only ate 3, but she was happy with that! And I think she picked about 10 total! :-) What more could I expect from a 3-year-old!

I ended up with a little more than 10 pounds of blueberries and only paid about $16! I was pleased because we freeze them for the winter! There is nothing better than fresh Maine blueberries in your warm pancakes on Christmas morning!!!

Here is Bailee with our blueberries... no, her mouth is not blue from eating berries... it's blue from her ring pop she was eating! :0)

Here she is again with some friends we went picking with! She was so proud to come home and show Daddy all the blueberries "we" picked. Funny, she had little to do with the actual picking, but took credit once we got home! :0)

p.s. She only ate 3 blueberries while we were picking, yet once we got home she devoured all kinds more! Figures!


Sunday, July 25, 2010

Disturbing!

These cute pictures of Mia were taken a few weeks ago when she discovered what Tom's MP3 player did! He had just come inside from mowing the lawn and was wearing it, so she decided to climb into his lap and explore the little machine. He turned the music on and immediately smiled with delight! She was thrilled to think that such a little thing could play such pretty music! She sat in Tom's lap for quite a while! Innocent enough, right?




Yes, I thought they were pretty cute too (especially since she was wearing her cowgirl dress up clothes) but then I found this picture online... and I was deeply disturbed!


I'm not sure what the purpose of this photo was, but I saw this beautiful baby in the womb so I clicked on it. I then realized what it was doing! I know this isn't real, but it seems to be close to reality now. Who knows, maybe by 2020 all babies in the womb will have their own sound systems and you could have a mini tv implanted into the placenta!

Don't you laugh! I wouldn't be surprised if something like that happens!!

I can't believe the amount of children walking around with cell phones, iPods, laptops and other various forms of technology now a days. Tom and I don't even own a cell phone... I know, we're just cheap! I cannot imagine buying one for my kids!

Maybe some day I'll come around to enjoy and appreciate all those little technological gadgets and gizmos, but for now I'll live simply with my little land line phone, radio, and laptop. Who knows, maybe by 2020 I'll even own a cell phone, iPod or MacBook!

Saturday, July 24, 2010

Why God Gave Boys Parents!

A while ago my husband received this e-mail from a co-worker about why God gave little boys parents! I laughed out loud and I just thought I would share these funny photos! It just gives me a taste of what to expect from my son in the future! I can only imagine the memories we will make!














For Tom

I am and will be eternally grateful for my husband! He is my world and I don't know what I would do without him! God gave him to me and he is the best gift I have ever received! I don't think I could ever replace him, nor would I ever want to! He works so hard for our family every day and sacrifices his time and energy for our family's well being every minute!


Tom, I love you and I want the world to know it!!!
Every day you show me that you're willing to fight and that I'm still the love of your life!
Thank you for "leading me" and our family!
Thank you for standing up for us and for taking the time to be with our
children when they need you!
And I will continue to pray that God shows you how to "lead us" and
how to keep fighting for us! We love you so much!
You have provided such a loving home for me and our children!
I love you! Love, Nicole

Friday, July 23, 2010

Average?

Dr. James Dobson said, “The average child can survive the average number of mistakes made by the average parent.”

The definition of average is-

1. Approximating the statistical norm or average or expected value
2. Lacking special distinction, rank, or status; commonly encountered
3. So, basically, in my language, average means normal or common

Average child?

Average # of mistakes?

Average parent?

So, are my children average? Is my parenting style average? Do I make too many mistakes? Will my children survive?

Yes, I think my kiddos will survive, but I think this quote was meant to comfort parents and allow us to relax from our usual over analysis of our parenting techniques Yet I find myself wondering if my children or I are "average" or "normal?"

It drives me crazy when other parents or doctors tell you that your child is not normal or isn't "average." Where is the definition of an "average child?" Please give me the manual that tells parents at what exact age your child will walk, talk or learn their abc's.

How can we compare children against each other and think one is better than the other?

In my opinion, my children are not average! Each one is unique, special and amazing! I adore everyone of their unique features and personality traits! My oldest child is bossy and loud, my middle daughter is demanding and competitive, and my baby, well, he's just perfect so far. But I love them all the same! Not one of them is "normal" or "average" in my opinion!

I found this poem which tells me that I don't want my children to be "Average"...

The Average Child
by Mike Buscemi

I don’t cause teachers trouble;
My grades have been okay.
I listen in my classes.
I’m in school every day.

My teachers think I’m average;
My parents think so too.
I wish I didn’t know that, though;
There’s lots I’d like to do.

I’d like to build a rocket;
I read a book on how.
Or start a stamp collection…
But no use trying now.

’Cause, since I found I’m average,
I’m smart enough you see
To know there’s nothing special
I should expect of me.

I hope my kids always know that they are not just average to me, but that they are loved and very special! I want them to stand out in the world and stand up for what is right! Not just blend in with the crowd!

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Progressive Motherhood

My mom shared this joke with me today and I laughed out loud! Having 3 children myself, I can relate 100%! If you only have one child, you'll laugh one day at how your parenting has changed with the more children you have! I love all 3 of my kids equally, but how I handle situations in their lives has changed! Lets just say I've lightened up quite a bit!

See what you think... :0)

"Yes, parenthood changes everything. But parenthood also changes with each baby. Here, some of the ways having a second and third child differs from having your first:

Your Clothes -
1st baby: You begin wearing maternity clothes as soon as your OB/GYN confirms your pregnancy.
2nd baby: You wear your regular clothes for as long as possible.
3rd baby: Your maternity clothes *are* your regular clothes.


The Baby's Name -
1st baby: You pore over baby-name books and practice pronouncing and writing combinations of all your favorites.
2nd baby: Someone has to name their kid after your great-aunt Mavis, right? It might as well be you.
3rd baby: You open a name book, close your eyes, and see where your finger falls. Bimaldo? Perfect!


Preparing for the Birth -
1st baby: You practice your breathing religiously.
2nd baby: You don't bother practising because you remember that last time, breathing didn't do a thing.
3rd baby: You ask for an epidural in your 8th month.


The Layette -
1st baby: You prewash your new-born's clothes, color-coordinate them, and fold them neatly in the baby's little bureau.
2nd baby: You check to make sure that the clothes are clean and discard only the ones with the darkest stains.
3rd baby: Boys can wear pink, can't they?


Worries -
1st baby: At the first sign of distress - a whimper, a frown - you pick up the baby.
2nd baby: You pick the baby up when her wails threaten to wake your firstborn.
3rd baby: You teach your 3-year-old how to rewind the mechanical swing.


Activities -
1st baby: You take your infant to Baby Gymnastics, Baby Swing, and Baby Story Hour.
2nd baby: You take your infant to Baby Gymnastics.
3rd baby: You take your infant to the supermarket and the dry cleaner.


Going Out -
1st baby: The first time you leave your baby with a sitter, you call home 5 times.

2nd baby: Just before you walk out the door, you remember to leave a number where you can be reached.
3rd baby: You leave instructions for the sitter to call only if she sees blood.


At Home -
1st baby: You spend a good bit of every day just gazing at the baby.
2nd baby: You spend a bit of every day watching to be sure your older child isn't squeezing, poking, or hitting the baby.
3rd baby: You spend a little bit of every day hiding from the children."

*Thanks to Pastor Tim for this joke! Check him out at cybersalt.org/cleanlaugh*


Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Common Mom Phrases


I can't tell you how many times I've thought I was turning into my mom! I say things that she does, I'm starting to look like her and I act like her all the time. Is that a bad thing? No, I love my mom, but it does make me think that we all end up talking to our kids the same way and in the same tone eventually!! I found these "common mom phrases" and thought they were hilarious! I think I've said almost all of them, and if I haven't I'm sure I will!! :0)

(Oh, and I decided to throw in a few photos from a recent photo shoot with my Aunt... enjoy!)

Common Mom Phrase: “Wait till your father gets home!”

Translation: “I give up. I don’t know what to do with you anymore, so I am resorting to empty threats. We both know your father will do absolutely nothing when he gets home.”


Common Mom Phrase: “Because I said so!”

Translation: “I can’t really explain. What I asked you to do makes no sense at all. But I can’t back up now because it will make me look bad. So just do it because I said so!”


Common Mom Phrase: “Do as I say, not as I do.”

Translation: “I do not have the will power to follow these rules. I sure hope you do.”

Common Mom Phrase: “I am not your maid.”

Translation: “Of course, I AM your maid. It’s part of being a mom. But I wish it weren’t.”

Common Mom Phrase: “I hope someday your children will treat you just like you treat me.”

Translation: “I’m tired and frustrated. It’s your fault. I want revenge but I’m your mom so I have to suck it up.”


And my favorite – “I just want what is best for you.”

Translation: “I gave birth to you. I have earned the right to meddle.”

So, do these sound familiar to you too? :0)